Just some thoughts

Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;  That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word,  That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish.  So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself.  For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church:  For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones.  For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh.  This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church.  Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband.
Ephesians 5:25‭-‬33 KJV

Yes, the wife has duties to the husband. They are partially covered in the verses preceding my chosen passage. But I'm not a wife, and I chose to post my own responsibility to God and my wife. No need to paraphrase it. It's in simple English.
Note that their are no exceptions. I does not say ~husbands love your wives when hey are good to you. It says "Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it."
You may actually encounter an incident that requires you to physically give your life for your wife, as Christ did for the church, but EVERY DAY you have opportunities to do such on a smaller, no not smaller, a different scale. Set aside you pride, your desires, your attitude, your own proclivities, and do everything with her in mind.
It does not mean that you won't occasionally have to make a decision she doesn't agree to. But you would be amazed at how often treating her right will cause her to want you to lead, and accept your leadership.
Go's had a plan for marriage and spousal relationships. He modeled it after the relationship of his Son to the Church. If you have not been her Christ, don't expect her to treat you like Him.